Did you know there are hundreds of thousands of videos online of tween and teen girls asking one simple question: Am I pretty or ugly? The girl then asks people to leave comments and let her know. The first time I read about this, at the start of December, I was heartbroken.
Curiosity had me checking out a few of these videos on YouTube, and I’m sure you can guess that the comments range from sweet to downright cruel. (And let’s now even consider the predators that could easily prey on young girls with low self-esteem.) I can imagine how these girls read the comments and what they felt as people complimented and insulted them. No doubt, for most of them, the insults stuck with them longer than the compliments.
How sad is it that we live in a world in which each girl doesn’t understand how truly lovely she is, and one that has girls seeking the opinions of faceless online strangers to confirm or deny something she should know intrinsically. I look at my 16 month old niece, who, while not perfectly proportioned, is absolutely adorable. She hasn’t been able to do anything noteworthy yet. She doesn’t have a sense of personal style. Heck, she barely even has personal taste in food. But she is beautiful. I’m in awe at the tiny little person who gives kisses willingly and is now an adorable big sister. It would kill me to think one day in the future she would post a video like this, having no idea that she is amazing!
There is only one answer to this question – no matter the girl, no matter her features or her coloring. Are you pretty or ugly? You are pretty. You are!
Why? You are pretty simply because you are; because you exist.
Think about it… creation is an amazing thing, filled with beauty and pretty things. Consider, the tiny black spots on the back of a lady bug, a vibrant yellow dandelion sprouting between the cracks in a sidewalk, the vibrant colors of a sunset. Even the things most people would consider gross still have an amazing appeal in their very being… eight tiny little eyes on nearly every spider, the intricate pattern and coloring of a snake. There is beauty there. Wonder. Dignity.
And if there is beauty in the tiny bugs crawling around and the weeds sprouting unannounced, there is beauty in each person who is.
Still, as human beings we don’t find every single person attractive. We have personal tastes and preferences. My friends and I always joke about how there are some men who are universally good looking (I’d put George Clooney in that category) and then there are men that some people find really attractive and some don’t see the appeal (Matt Damon or Ben Affleck? – in my experience, most chicks like one or the other.) So maybe you aren’t someone’s personal preference but you will be someone else’s choice.