After soaking in all the words of wisdom at the IFB Conference last week, mulling them over and making some implementation plans I started thinking about other pieces of advice I’d been given over the years and how they have impacted me for the better. This post may also have to do in part with the nostalgia of turning another year older today. Who knows??? Either way welcome to another Friday and another installment of Fashion/Beauty Friend Friday.
- You can’t be anything you want to be. My dad imparted this little nugget when I was still in high school. At the time I was adamantly opposed to the idea and balked at even the suggestion that I couldn’t be anything and anyone I wanted to be. He suggested books for me to read on the matter. I scoffed. But when I entered college I realized he is right. I might want to be the next Kelly Clarkson but without that God-given vocal talent I’m not going to make it to the first round of judges. Sure practice, hard work and dedication play a part but it isn’t enough. Instead we should be focused on our natural aptitudes – the things we were born good at and will continue to be good at. Identifying those is sometimes the harder part.
- True friendship is wanting the best for the other person without regard for yourself. My high school advisor taught me that. At the time I had just lost a friend to the cool group and she had the audacity to suggest that maybe I could be a true friend by being happy for her – perhaps these new friends were exactly what she needed in the moment. Ouch. I don’t know whether she needed those friends or not, but what I do know is that the mantra has stuck with me and has helped me countless times over the past 10 years.
- The work of the home is a true profession if it is seen as such. My mother taught me this day in and day out while I grew up. The household chores – the laundry, the meals, the carpools – were not just one more thing on a list of must-dos. It was her job and she was going to do it to the best of her ability, giving her all. As a result I wound up with adorable home-made Halloween costumes every year and good sit-down dinner every night.
- It’s all about Love. Everything else is a footnote. This was the one and only line I ever took away from a class in college. I was taking the Philosophy of Beauty taught by an adorable old Jesuit priest. He could talk for an entire hour about the beauty in the rustling of the leaves outside – but this was the one phrase he repeated several times; and I couldn’t agree more.
- Hold your head up Girl, you’re beautiful. A man driving by yelled this to me as I walked down the sidewalk. His few short words summed up everything I was trying to teach the fashion clubs I ran and address on ModlyChic. It doesn’t matter if we’ve got disproportionate features, funky taste in clothing, a short torso, big ears, whatever… we’re beautiful – each and everyone of us. We were made beautiful and we should hold our head up and carry ourselves in a way that declares that to the world.
I’d love to hear your words of wisdom. Got one to share? Leave it in the comments below!