Friend Friday: Loving Your Body Image

by katyrose on February 18, 2011

I’m away, as you can tell from all the spectacular guest posts that have been going up this week. But I’m thrilled about this topic. I think it is such an important subject for everyone to consider and especially the fashion bloggers among us. Who hasn’t been impacted by the negative body image messages that are all around us? Who hasn’t wanted to be skinnier, more fit, taller, shorter, smaller footed, whatever…

1. Since you started blogging has your image of yourself changed? Hmm… I would have to say Yes! Although I think the process of coming to love myself as I am started about a year before I started blogging. I was living in New York and overweight and decided I wanted to be happier with the way I felt and I wanted to do something with my health in mind. So I started walking everywhere and trying to jog. It was enough to begin loosing a couple pounds and begin to feel better and more confident with myself. From that point there was no turning back. I started blogging and haven’t felt the same disappointment with myself and my body as I did four years ago.

2. Are you self-conscious about any aspect of yourself? If so, do you go out of your way to avoid it or do you post it/talk about it anyway? Um… I don’t think so. I photograph myself every day and those photos are out there for the world to see. Nothing really gets hidden. I’m not pointing out all my flaws but I don’t brush over them either.

3. Based on how you are feeling now, what do you think the future holds in the evolution of your body image? I think and hope, that with the huge popularity of blogs and more average people sharing, voicing and offering their opinions that body image will begin to shift to allow all of us to feel comfortable in our own skin. We don’t have to be model skinny or have the face for a magazine cover to be beautiful. Beauty is more than outer appearances. It is the things we value, the life we live and the way we interact with others.  So hopefully the future embraces women and men that are authentic representatives of the human race.

4. Do you photograph yourself for your blog? If so, how do you feel about the experience when you’re having your picture taken? If you choose not to post pictures of yourself, what prompted that decision? It’s no secret that I photograph myself for this blog. To be honest it is more about showcasing a new way to wear a clothing item than a personal photo shoot. I don’t do it to show off my great physic (LOL) I do it to hep others who are trying to figure out what to wear and how to coordinate items.


5. What would you want every person who struggles with body image to take to heart?
Take a step back and think of the things that you are amazing at. Love those things, love yourself for the talents you have. By appreciating those things and focusing on the positive, you will be able to look beyond your perceived imperfections and love the person in the mirror. We all have such value and dignity, it pains me when people look in the mirror and complain about what they see. You are so much more than the reflection in the mirror.

Sidenote… My stylist, Anthony, is giving any one who mentions me, Katy Rose, a 15% discount till March 31st! New Englanders – you have no excuse not to go and experience the wonder that is Anthony David Salon in Burlington, MA.

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Fabienne Jach February 18, 2011 at 1:19 am

I’m with you, I too hope to see a shift from what we, as normal and average people, are doing in this area of fashion. Young girls need better role models, all women (and men) need inspiration and support. This brings to mind recently seeing a picture of myself in a biking 20 years back. Oh how I scrutinized my body then, and of course, I looked fabulous. Youth. What can you do! Now I think I look fabulous because I know everything I bring to the table, it’s not limited to my physical presence. Gotta love getting older:)
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(S) February 18, 2011 at 1:43 am

This is a great topic to discuss. Especially because there are varying degrees of comfort among bloggers out there. I can’t wait to be a part of FBFF.
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Katie February 18, 2011 at 1:57 am

Blogging has been good for my body image, I hope that others have found the same!
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Terri February 18, 2011 at 2:02 am

Katy–your answer to #5 hit the nail on the head. The creator has made our bodies to be wonderfully functional; I marvel at it daily. Our true mirrors are our relationships to others.
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Jessica Marie February 18, 2011 at 2:24 am

Fantastic questions this week! I look forward to reading everyone’s responses!

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Tiffany February 18, 2011 at 2:28 am

Such great questions! TGIF…
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MyFavouriteThings February 18, 2011 at 2:48 am

A very importan topic to discuss and well-thought questions! How wonderful that you were able to turn your self-image around and do something about it! I’m really looking forward to join the FBFF, and hope that everybody has a great weekend:)
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Collette Osuna February 18, 2011 at 5:53 am

I totally agree with you Katy….love who is in the mirror, and that we are so much more than that:) Good for you for the walking and jogging…I run too:)
Hope you are having a nice time away:)

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Sam February 18, 2011 at 7:21 am

I like your answer to the last question. It’s something along the lines of what I said in my FBFF. It takes a lot to really appreciate your body, but you have to love the rest of you too. All those talents are something that you can’t see in the mirror.

I’ve never thought of wanting to have smaller feet. I’m only a size 9, but if I did want smaller feet it would only be to get all the cute shoes that are always sold out haha. My size sells so fast in everything. So not cool.
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Missy February 18, 2011 at 7:48 am

Other than messing up my own link up above and linking last Friday’s topic instead of today’s…:)

Great topic. It’s amazing how much you can live in your own head and what happens to your own self worth as a result.

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brett February 18, 2011 at 8:00 am

I really liked the questions this week and think they are very timely as we are just finishing up with fashion week and crazy super thin images are everywhere.
I totally agree with you that as fashion/style blogging becomes more popular, peoples ideas of body image will change. Young girls really need this today.
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Caitlin February 18, 2011 at 8:13 am

I loved answering these questions! Such a great and relevant topic. I definitely agree with you, Katy, about the whole photoshoot thing; when I take photos, it’s about the outfit, not about me.
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Serene February 18, 2011 at 8:13 am

Wonderful questions this week, Katy. Very pertinent and timely! ~Serene

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Elissa February 18, 2011 at 8:19 am

These were really great questions, though difficult for me to answer. Ass a recovering anorexic and bulimic I have pretty major issues with body image. I spent so many years hating how I looked, to the point where I was willing to torture myself as a result. Blogging has been really good for me. It forces me to get over myself, so to speak, and see the positives. Posting my pics everyday is a way for me to reclaim myself from the self-consciousness and fear the eating disorder inflicted me. It’s more empowering than I ever thought it would be.
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Ana February 18, 2011 at 8:23 am

These were great questions! I was surprised by how hard I found them to answer.
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EvaNadine February 18, 2011 at 8:31 am

ooh, this topic really hit a nerve with me. (not in a bad way, it just really got me thinking about things.) i cant wait to read other ladies’ responses!
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Hope February 18, 2011 at 8:41 am

I love your answer to #5. I got a little stumped there with my answer so I just was short. You said what I couldn’t put into words.
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Rebekah February 18, 2011 at 9:27 am

This one was a lot tougher for me than last week’s particularly because I know I don’t have a good body image. I’m looking forward to reading other people’s responses and hopefully giving myself a kick in the pants to be more positive about this topic.
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MJ February 18, 2011 at 9:30 am

Loved the questions this week! You’re right – with more and more bloggers of all different body types, etc. coming into the fashion consciousness, it will become a lot easier to love ourselves and our uniqueness as opposed to trying to live up to an impossible industry standard.
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Pheobe February 18, 2011 at 9:33 am

Great questions! Probably one of my favorites so far :)
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Kirstin Marie February 18, 2011 at 9:33 am

This topic really, really struck home for me. I have struggled with body image for years up until recently. Good for you for showing yourself to everyone out there! I definitely admire your self confidence.
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Elizabeth February 18, 2011 at 9:47 am

This is a great topic. Its so important, but I feel like body image still never gets talked about.
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Amy February 18, 2011 at 10:16 am

I’m all linked up! Great questions this week Katy!
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Veshoevius February 18, 2011 at 10:33 am

Great questions this week and great answers – agree with you that blogs are great in that they offer real people with a variety of body types a chance to have a voice about fashion, clothes, style and getting dressed rather than just the narrow focus of the fashion industry.
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Bajan Beauty February 18, 2011 at 10:42 am

Great answer for #5, self love should be your first love!
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Rocio Lie February 18, 2011 at 10:49 am

I love the questions this week. I hope this motivates all of us to love ourselves more. Happy weekend everyone!=)
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Charlotte February 18, 2011 at 11:13 am

Fantastic questions- really glad they weren’t too personal either. I think body image is a great topic for bloggers to cover. Can’t wait to read how everyone else feels :]]

Charlotte xxx
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Lori February 18, 2011 at 11:21 am

Wow, I really had to deal with some old personal demons with this set of questions. I especially enjoyed your answer to the last question, about how we are so much more than a reflection in the mirror. So very true but so easy to forget sometimes.

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suzanne February 18, 2011 at 11:47 am

this was a really great topic – i had a good time coming up with my answers. there is way too much pressure on women to look an act a certain way. i love that blogging has come about and really showcases normal people trying their hand at fashion -and being successful! it’s a joy and an honor to be a part of this revolution.

thanks for a great set of questions, katy!

-suzanne

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Tashina February 18, 2011 at 12:39 pm

I loved this one!

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Erica February 18, 2011 at 12:46 pm

This is a great topic. I enjoyed writing about it :)

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Sara February 18, 2011 at 1:11 pm

These were great questions to answer, and I think that it’s important for bloggers to reach out and talk about these issues with others. It was very interesting to read everyone’s answers to these questions!
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Lauren February 18, 2011 at 2:05 pm

Great questions!!!
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Bonnie February 18, 2011 at 2:05 pm

I lovelovelovelovelove this idea. It is such a cool concept. It makes me want to take part in it! :)

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Ashley February 18, 2011 at 2:17 pm

Number 75!
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Anika http://byanika.com February 18, 2011 at 3:40 pm

Hi sweetheart, thank you for sharing these great questions! They really spoke to the heart of by blogging venture, which is all about embracing and loving our fashionable selves . I loved reading your answers, darling. I think it is so important that this issue is talked about, as self acceptance is something we all deal with, regardless of gender, size and sexuality.

I hope all is well with you! Will email you soon :)

xx Anika
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Fashnlvr February 18, 2011 at 4:12 pm

Where does this “pressure” to conform to “someone’s” idea of beauty come from? Should we allow Vogue, Elle, InStyle, the runway, etc. to define women? I think every woman is beautiful. Every Woman. We are all such wondrously unique individuals. We should appreciate our specialness rather than all try to look the same.
More than body image, I struggle with the Youth Factor and the ‘factor’ is that I am not getting any younger! The aging process is what I am fighting. I don’t want to be 21 again but I’m not ready for the silvers and the wrinkles that come with wisdom (or so my grandmother promised me!!)
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Ana (clothesjunkie) February 18, 2011 at 4:35 pm

Even though I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, I found these a bit challenging to answer, which is good!

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Bethy February 18, 2011 at 4:38 pm

Thanks for another good FBFF, Katy!
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Elizabeth February 18, 2011 at 4:50 pm

Thank you so much for this week’s questions! It really got me thinking — again — about how I view my body and how I treat my body.
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Bekah February 18, 2011 at 5:48 pm

Stoked about my first FBFF- Can’t wait to read y’all’s + participate in coming weeks!!!
Thanks! Bekah
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Kristin February 18, 2011 at 5:54 pm

This was my first FBFF — thanks for these great questions, I definitely needed to reflect.
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Shea February 18, 2011 at 6:03 pm

I loved the questions this week–such an important, relevant issue!
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Sherry Jarwin February 18, 2011 at 8:04 pm

I loved this topic… very introspective and eye-opening! Thanks! Cheers! xoxo

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violette February 18, 2011 at 8:52 pm

Thanks for this week’s questions. I also think it’s important to talk about that.

I agree with you, I post pictures of me not to show how pretty I am (wow…!), but to show my clothes and how I wear them. And that’s what I look at when I read blogs.
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Jessica February 18, 2011 at 9:05 pm

I’m feeling a little low about my self image today, so this topic actually helped a lot. I think I need to take my own advice. ;)

Jessica
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Krystle February 19, 2011 at 12:09 am

Katy, I love how you mentioned doing something you’re good at in your advice! I totally agree… when you find something you’re passionate about, it shows in your appearance!! :)

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Sarah February 19, 2011 at 1:12 am

I really wish people would get to see blogs as a form of true beauty as well so I love that you wrote that in your post.

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monique February 19, 2011 at 1:29 am

these are my favorite questions so far, and i love your answers. thanks for hosting this!!

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Alex Elizabeth February 19, 2011 at 1:58 pm

Sorry I’m just getting to commenting now but I wanted to be able to devote time to really read through! I loved your answer to #3, that’s what I hope for too. I’m really looking forward to reading everyone’s responses this week!
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Abbe K February 19, 2011 at 6:05 pm

Katy-
Thank you so much for these questions. I think they were really great.
Oh, and sorry about being a day late!!
xoxo-
abbe
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Elly February 22, 2011 at 10:50 pm

This is a terrific set of questions. I found it quite interesting for me to look at the role of blogging in my (certainly) improving self-image over the past year or so…perhaps not so much influenced by my own blog as by reading dozens of other wonderful blogs featuring beautiful, stylish women of many shapes and ages. (So, I’m a few days late, but still wanted to answer these!)
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